Do you know what is worse than being rejected by someone you like?
It's when you've met someone, and both of you felt clicked to each other instantly. Yet, soon you realized your partner could only be with you in a short time, maybe because he or she has to come home after the trip, or you have to leave your place for school or work, etc. Whatever reason hurts you the same. No matter how hard and hopelessly you've tried to be with them, you failed in the face of long-distance or incompatible schedule. People come and go, leave you alone with your broken heart.
I have been there several times, and I know how sucked it is to be in that situation. Ironically, as I love exploring new places, try new things, and meeting new people, I couldn't and wouldn't avoid developing affection for some of them along the way. So, how could I deal with that?
"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened" - Dr. Seuss -
That's my mantra. It sounds cliché, but it's so true. Instead of counting down to the day when we have to say goodbye, I choose to live in the present and cherish every moment when we're together. And when the time comes, I celebrate the beautiful times instead of focusing on the sadness of splitting up. Life is not all about love; my partner and I both know bigger things are waiting for us on the horizon.
Here is a piece of wisdom taken away from "Love & Misadventure," written by Lang Leav, which perfectly resonates with this topic. I hope you enjoy it!
"One day, you meet someone, and for some inexplicable reasons, you feel more connected to this stranger than anyone else–closer to them than your closest family. Perhaps this person carries within them an angel–one sent to you for some higher purpose; to teach you an important lesson or to keep you safe during a perilous time. What you must do is trust in them–even if they come hand in hand with pain or suffering–the reason for their presence will become clear in due time." Though here is a word of warning–you may grow to love this person but remember they are not yours to keep. Their purpose isn't to save you but to show you how to protect yourself. And once this is fulfilled, the halo lifts, and the angel leaves their body as the person exits your life. They will be a stranger to you once more..."
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